Atheist Julian Barnes on the modern fad of "my own personal idea of God":
A common response in surveys of religious attitudes is to say something like, “I don’t go to church, but I have my own personal idea of God.” This kind of statement makes me in turn react like a philosopher. Soppy, I cry.
You may have your own personal idea of God, but does God have His own personal idea of you? Because that’s what matters.
Whether’s He’s an old man with a white beard sitting in the sky, or a life force, or a disinterested prime mover, or a clockmaker, or a woman, or a nebulous moral force, or Nothing At All, what counts is what He, She, It, or Nothing thinks of you rather than you of them.
The notion of redefining the deity into something that works for you is grotesque.
